What really got to me was their mutual lack of understanding towards each other, as seen in several situations. In one particularly striking scene, Anna (the female lead) would ramble incessantly to her boyfriend Ludo, griping the fact that he does not fulfill his domestic responsibilities. Instead of having her nagging hit home, Ludo appeared nonchalant but consented to agreeing with her just so she would stop heaping the blame on him.
It made me wonder, acknowledging that miscommunication is prevalent in modern day relationships, if this is a common problem of conflict for couples. The average woman would expect her significant other to reflect on the issues she has raised and resolve to be better; this is, to her, an emotional connection with her man. On the other hand, with regards to the dominant patriarchy that is still structured in society albeit less firmly, the man in question might not adhere willingly as it would mean having to suppress the male ego.
Yet more often than not they choose to give in, as did Ludo in the film, but whether they adjust their behaviour is a different matter altogether. A male friend once mentioned that all they want is a peace of mind. He assumes that if he were to throw in the towel during an argument he would be able to appease his girlfriend, until the very next time it happens of course. Thus in his point of view, he does not sacrifice the "male pride" by consciously making a change, but has seemingly put a stop to the problem. The end result? Nothing actually changes and the same issues resurface over time.
I am unable to draw up any conclusive solution to this problem and instead have a few questions to ask. Does ignorance really mean bliss, if temporary? Are men and women able to compromise if they understand that each operate and think differently from the other?
Still, this movie is an awesome one and is now screening at Vivo City/Plaza Singapura only, so do catch it with an open mind :)
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